I’ve been waiting for it to be handed to me on a silver platter.
We ask ourselves, and perhaps even other people…”Why am I here?” “What is my purpose in life?” We hope in vain for a crystal clear answer to that question, along with a step by step roadmap to get us there. While we’re at it, it would be nice to already have all the money and relevant people in place, too. Is that too much to ask?
Maybe it is.
Maybe knowing all those things isn’t enough. Maybe having all the resources and people to help us isn’t enough. Maybe if EVERYTHING was just the way we think it should be, it still wouldn’t be enough. Why?
Because the journey to get where we need to be is a REQUIRED part of the process. All the frustrations, the learning curves, the missteps, and the wrong turns are all lessons that prepare to fulfill our destiny. Are we willing to learn from them? Are we willing to allow those seeming obstacles to mold us in the only person who can HANDLE our destiny?
Like you, I’d like to just bypass all of that stuff and get to the good part already. You know, that part where we are living that purpose filled life, blissed out because we are finally doing what we were born to do? I’m with you on that. Sometimes the path to purpose and destiny can be discouraging. Sometimes it seems so daunting that I’m tempted to quit. But what if that, too, is part of the process?
No, I’m not letting anyone off the hook…especially me!
One of the reasons we can’t just get there is that we really and truly don’t know where THERE is. We have a picture in our minds, but that’s mostly based on our own understanding. It’s most likely limited by our current self-imposed limitations. As we go through our struggles, we uncover inner strength. With that new knowledge of strength and ability, our vision begins to change and grow. Perhaps it gets bigger, perhaps there’s greater clarity, or perhaps there’s both.
If we make a mistake or stumble, we soon realize whatever we tripped over was a well disguised lesson that enables us to better understand who we are and what we are called to do. In other words, we can stumble into destiny.
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that we didn’t plan on. These are necessarily bad things, but just things that we wouldn’t have chosen for ourselves, like filling in for a children’s Sunday School teacher even though we don’t believe that’s our ultimate purpose. Even though we think we are just “filling in” we begin to realize that we’ve stumbled upon something else that points to our purpose and destiny. It’s humbling to understand that if circumstances hadn’t forced our hand, we might have completely missed the opportunity. Once again, we can stumble into destiny.
I suppose you were hoping for 5-7 crystal clear, super easy steps that will escort you directly into destiny living. After all, I am a coach. Well, I’m also a truth teller, and the truth is that the purpose of your journey is to LIVE your life and experience what it has to offer on your way to fulfilling your reason for being here. However, to satisfy list lovers such as myself, here you go:
Yes, pray! Talk to God about who you are and what you are called to do. Ask Him to teach you who He is in and through you. Ask Him to reveal the gifts and talents He’s given you. Ask Him for wisdom of how to use them.
Learn who you are and what you stand for. Write these things down. This assignment isn’t quite as easy as it seems, but it reveals a great deal.
Don’t fight the lessons, learn from them! No mistake is worthless or wasted time IF you learn from it.
Don’t underestimate the value of opportunities to serve. You can learn much about who you are and what you are called (or not called) to do.
Re-evaluate from time to time. Write what you are learning along the way. Keep the vision in writing and refresh it as needed.
Be thankful. Be thankful for the easy opportunities, the hard lessons, and everything in between.
Keep going. Get back up if you’ve quit. If you are still breathing, then you still have purpose.
No one promised us an easy life, but it can be fulfilling. One last thought before I close:
I used to think that I wasn’t living in my purpose yet, because I haven’t “arrived” there yet. Well, that’s not true. Pursuing my purpose IS part of my purpose, therefore, I’m already living a purpose filled life. I’m just increasing in degrees of that as I learn and grow. And so are you!
Take On Life!
© 2016 Deborah Wittig